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FOSTA Hurts Sex Workers, and It Hurts Us All - Kink Academy

  • FOSTA Hurts Sex Workers, and It Hurts Us All - Kink Academy

  • 1 month ago
  • FetLife, a popular kink-friendly social network, is consulting with its team to determine a course of action. Microsoft and Google have changed their terms of service to prohibit “offensive” or “inappropriate content and language,” concepts so broad that any sexual speech might be prohibited. And FOSTA-induced censorship isn’t limited to public posts: Google is purging adult content from private Drive accounts. Sex workers are undergoing a mass exodus from Gmail and hosting their websites in places outside the “land of the free.” Why are lawmakers unable to fathom the speed and efficiency with[...]
Queer Women and Leather: A Culture Clash That Has Nothing to Do With Veganism - Autostraddle

  • Queer Women and Leather: A Culture Clash That Has Nothing to Do With Veganism - Autostraddle

  • 1 month ago
  • In his book Public Sex, kinky queer writer Pat Califia asks that we queers “shelter one another’s desires, even those that are strange or degrading.” I second Califia. The bathroom issue that prevented leather queers from pursuing their desires for sex radicalism in the leather bar is different — in type and in scale — than the bathroom issues that conservative politicians have used to terrorize trans people. But in these times, we must all shelter one another. We must understand and appreciate the diversity of our communities, and protect them, from outsiders and from ourselves.   [...]
I Went to Skirt Club, a Lesbian Sex Party for Straight Women - Autostraddle

  • I Went to Skirt Club, a Lesbian Sex Party for Straight Women - Autostraddle

  • 1 month ago
  • At its core, even our queer culture figures sex between feminine-presenting women as performative. It feels like The L Word. It feels disingenuous. Perfectly beach-blown hair streaming down Pilates-toned backs, Agent Provocateur lingerie pulled carefully to the side, stilettos left on. While the #femme4femme movement online and in sex-positive queer communities has worked to reduce the stigma of femme-on-femme sex, many of us, myself included, are afraid that we learned lesbian sex from the male gaze and mirrored it back, even when the only bodies in front of the mirror are our own.
I Tell Men 'No' for a Living: What a Dominatrix Knows About #MeToo - Salon.com

  • I Tell Men 'No' for a Living: What a Dominatrix Knows About #MeToo - Salon.com

  • 1 month ago
  • In the wake of #MeToo, it is depressingly clear that a woman’s freedom to say “no” exists in the realm of fantasy. In our culture of normalized sexual violence, those fantasies — quite like the fantasy of female domination — seem futile. But still, we work and we hope. Like the journalists, actresses, lawyers, baristas and all other women who have had the courage to stand up and say, "me too," sex workers are on the front lines of this fight.  

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  • 6 months ago
  • If you are interested in the perspectives you find here, I am available for press commentary on kink and BDSM, as well as topics related to feminism, sex work, and queer politics. If you would like me to write for your publication, please contact me through the booking page on this website.